I recently watched the Netflix show Sex Life. In the show the main character, Billie Connelly, poses the question “Is it possible to have it all, just at different stages of your life?" This question really resonated with me. I have the husband, the children, the house, and a career. Unlike Billie, I am not questioning my sex life. However, I am struggling with my identity. When I was in my early 20’s before meeting my husband, I had decided that I did not ever want to have children. I was young, beautiful, driven, and independent. I was selfish and was more than ok with it. I wanted to work hard and play harder. I was focused on making money, spending it on myself, and indulging in life’s finest pleasures. I wanted to eat, drink, travel, and meet new people. It was all about me and what made me happy. Then I met a guy (my husband) who I fell for very quickly. After dating for a year my perspective on having a family had changed. I knew I wanted to have kids someday, just not now...